My husband and I are trying to have another child. We have two boys, ages 4 and 2 ½. Brian’s an only child, but he has aunts on both sides of his family with four children, all boys. We are the last hope of Brian’s 80-year-old Mémé, who loves her five grandsons but has six bags full of lace, floral fabrics, and pink and lavender yarn in her closet gathering moth eggs. None of her other grandchildren are married yet, and the pressure's on.
For my part, I do wish for a daughter. My mom has been so nurturing and has given me much sage advice over the years. I'd like to pass some of what I've learned from her on to a daughter of my own.
So, with our chances of having a girl looking to be about 2 percent, I ordered the book How to Choose the Sex of Your Baby, by Landrum B. Shettles, M.D., Ph.D. After reading hundreds of pages of studies and evidence, statistical and anecdotal (and ad nauseam), I became convinced that we could increase our chances of conceiving a girl to at least 75 percent.
The catch? Persons wanting to conceive a girl must stop having sex two to three days BEFORE ovulation. Also, to increase the chances of conceiving a girl, the woman should not enjoy herself during intercourse. Is this irony?
So for the three months that we were advised to wait before trying again after my miscarriage, I carefully took my temperature every morning and monitored (brace yourself) my cervical mucus. Have you learned all about cervical mucus? It’s fascinating stuff.
I determined that I ovulate on day 12 or 13, but can’t figure any closer than that. We’ve tried and failed for two cycles now. All this trying and failing makes me realize that I want a baby, boy or girl, I just want a baby. This is a good thing.
But my husband, being the scientific and technical brainchild that he is, thinks we’ve finally got it all figured out, so why not try again? So this is it. We moved our last “try” in 12 hours closer to my estimated ovulation time, and now all we have to do is wait.
If it doesn't work this time, I think I've got to relinquish my illusion of control and just get on with the making of this baby. I can't wait for her, or him, to be here.
2 comments:
Um, we made Amelia, having the best sex ever. FWIW, position (and mindset) was better (for me). I'm too irregular to figure out ovulation, we just BOTH really really really really really really wanted a girl.
How can God NOT comply with that? lol...
We're also TTC a girl, we're in our third month. Arrgh, like yourself I'm ready for a baby boy or girl by now, but trying to keep my patience. Good luck!
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